Breast Cancer Awareness: A Mom’s Perspective

As moms, we often find ourselves prioritizing everything and everyone else over our own health. In the thick of those early years of motherhood—whether it's late-night feedings, toddler tantrums, or managing endless to-do lists—it’s easy to overlook self-care. But breast cancer doesn’t wait, and neither should we.

Two years ago, I (Lucie Duffy) was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 39. I had no family history, never felt a lump, and didn’t carry the BRCA gene. It was during a routine mammogram—scheduled after a fellow mom urged me to "check the box"—that the diagnosis was made. I never imagined receiving that news, and it felt like the world came crashing down. I went from being a mom just trying to juggle life to suddenly facing my worst fear.

The emotional impact was profound. My son was just 1.5 years old at the time. Instead of being fully present with him, I found myself on autopilot, moving from one doctor’s appointment to the next. I felt robbed of those early moments with him. My focus was on survival—just trying to get through each day, each procedure, and each test. I was constantly on edge, consumed by fear and uncertainty. The entire year of 2023 felt like a blur, as I struggled to process what I was going through, all while trying to be a mother.

Putting Yourself First

Cancer doesn’t just affect your body; it changes your outlook on life. Two years later, at almost 42, I have new perspectives on my relationships, my purpose, and what makes me truly happy. But the truth is, cancer stole so much from me. It took away precious time with my son when he was at such a tender age. It forced me to confront my mortality in a way I never expected.

What I want every mom to know is this: You matter. Your health matters. We often ignore or overlook our own needs, but we can’t afford to do that. Early detection is key. If something feels off, don’t wait. Push for a screening, ask for additional testing, and above all, advocate for yourself.

My story is not unique. Since my diagnosis, several friends have reached out to share their own or their loved ones' battles with breast cancer. It’s a sobering reminder that breast cancer can touch any of us at any time.

Please, don’t wait. Schedule your mammogram. Northwestern’s breast imaging number is 312-472-0420. That one phone call could save your life—just like it did mine.

As moms, we are the heart of our families, but we can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of ourselves is the first step to taking care of those we love. Let’s be here for ourselves and each other. You’re not alone, and neither am I.

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(Lucie with her son and husband)